Why do people have to be so mean? As an adoptive parent I can honestly say that not one of my children are different from the other in my heart. In fact my little brother was adopted and nothing could have made him any less my brother. There are lots of parents out there raising children who have no ties biologically, but that makes them no less their child or them any less the parent. I bring this subject up because I just spent over an hour on the phone with a young lady who was faced with the fact today of her child finding out she was not his biological mom. In a fit of anger her own sister proceeded to make this fact known in front of my friends 7 year old son. First I don't understand how anyone could be so hateful to do such a thing to a child. It saddens me After counseling my friend I let her know that eventually he would have found out and although it shouldn't have happened in the way that it did that she can make a positive out of this and build a greater bond than was there before. We all have opportunities in life to touch the lives of those around us and although we are not tied to each other biologically some of us are tied together spiritually through our Father in heaven. I come from a family of 7 children, I have 3 children of my own, but my family is so much bigger than that because of my spiritual family that God has blessed me with. I can go anywhere in the world and find new family members. It isn't our own blood that makes a family but the blood of Christ. How truly blessed we are to have a Father who loves us so much. 'Til next time
Oh Deb, That is sad! Some people get so angry they just can't control it and they find the thing that can hurt worse than a slap...and just go for it. I would be so afraid of not telling mine from the beginning in the way I would want to word it...if I had an adopted one. Thanks for sharing. Maybe it will make better people of us just by hearing it. Have a great day today! I can't hardly wait until the middle of June.
by denimgirl (PM , CC ) on Friday April 20, 2007 @ 8:11 AM
Of course when and how to tell a child that they are not carried in our tummy but carried in our heart is a personal choice. My brother was told from the time he could understand. It never phased him. I told our daughter around the age of 4 when she asked if she was in my tummy and have often wished I would have waited because she was not as accepting. It's a private and personal matter and only the parent should be allowed the decision of when and how it should happen. Never should it be done in anger only to be spiteful. Being a parent is such a special blessing no matter how it happens.
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After counseling my friend I let her know that eventually he would have found out and although it shouldn't have happened in the way that it did that she can make a positive out of this and build a greater bond than was there before. We all have opportunities in life to touch the lives of those around us and although we are not tied to each other biologically some of us are tied together spiritually through our Father in heaven. I come from a family of 7 children, I have 3 children of my own, but my family is so much bigger than that because of my spiritual family that God has blessed me with. I can go anywhere in the world and find new family members. 
It isn't our own blood that makes a family but the blood of Christ. How truly blessed we are to have a Father who loves us so much. 'Til next time 
